I’ll be brief with my scenario. I have been dating this young lady (I’ll call her Mia) for three months now and I’m totally in love with her. She’s my world and I can’t see myself living without her. Regrettably her parents don’t think that I’m an ideal candidate for their daughter. They are well to do educated individuals. Mia’s father is a college professor at Florida A&M University and her mother is a pharmacist at a privately owned company. They have both expressed their disdain for me because I had no father in my life and my mother is a waitress. They are also not fans of my major either because it is General Studies. I just want to be happy and their daughter makes me happy but I don’t want to fight Mia’s parents for her love. She’s torn between the three of us and it’s weighing on her heart heavily because she loves all of us. What should I do? How can I help the situation get better?
Everything to lose and Nothing to Gain
Dear Everything to Lose and Nothing to Gain:
I hear your problem and I am here to help and guide you. I know for a fact your background and major has nothing to do with the dislike from your lovely girlfriend’s parents. The fact that your father was not in your life and your mother is a waitress has nothing to do with who you are and the love you have for your girlfriend. Just like every other parent, they want the best for their daughter. Moms and dads want their daughters to be happy and treated well. Yes, her parents see the bad in you and believe you are not the one for their daughter but what parent doesn’t. My advice to you is that you have an intimate face to face conversation with her parents (don’t go back and forth between you, her, her parents, back to her, then back to you) and assure them that you would never do anything if you thought it would hurt their daughter. Let her parents know that you couldn’t imagine anything but her happiness and that you would do any and everything within your abilities to see her smile and well taken care of. That’s what every parent wants to know. Then, of course, you must prove it. This isn’t going to happen overnight. Every situation has its own unique details to work through.