I graduated in May of this year and recently started a job that I love. The down side to my new job is that it doesn’t pay that much. (Only about $1,300 a month after taxes plus I stay in New Orleans which is an expensive city to live in) Like so many other people in my generation (22-32) I’ve had to get a roommate which leads me to my problem. The person I’m sharing the apartment ( 1 bedroom, 1 bath) with is my cousin (He sleeps on the floor) and I already regret my decision to allow him to stay with me. Yes, he does help me on the rent and utilities but he’s loud, rude, obnoxious and he has a malodorous odor that quite frankly stinks up the entire apartment. He doesn’t clean up after himself by leaving empty pizza boxes all over the place, he doesn’t clean up in the bathroom and I’m literally at my wit’s end. The straw that broke the camel’s back for me was when my girlfriend came over and she said the smell was so offensive that she left and refuses to come back over until he’s gone for good. My question is how do I tell my cousin that I want him gone without hurting his feelings. I mean he is family and I don’t want to start a rift between us. Please help me on this.
Can’t Take It Any More
Dear Can’t Take It Any More,
Seems to me that you’re in quite the predicament. Your job only pays $1,300 a month and you desperately need a roommate to make ends meet. Your cousin seems to be making your life harder by not taking care of himself. Anyone who has an odor can smell themselves before anyone else can. This means he doesn’t care about his hygiene or your feelings. I would basically tell him that you refuse to live in a smelly apartment. If you can’t come home with peace in your house then that is a major problem that has to be immediately rectified. Give him a choice to either do better with the current living condition or you will find a new roommate. As for your job, if you love it so much, stick with it. There will always be something new along the way that will pay better. Good luck.