Talkin’ With Tangy (October 30, 2017)


Dear Tangy:


I am a Sophomore Criminal Justice major hailing from Louisiana. I am a good student (3.1 Cumulative Grade Point Average) who is very active around campus. I consider myself to be somewhat of a renaissance man. About 6 months ago I met this young lady who I fell head over hills with. She’s a Sophomore Computer Science major who is a Dean’s Scholar and she is also very active on campus. The first time I met her I knew she was the one and she knew that I was the one. My only problem is she has a 3-year-old daughter, who I just simply adore, but I can’t realistically see myself as someone’s father right now. My girlfriend (I’ll call her Tina) says she wants that positive role model in her daughter’s life that only I can fulfill. I mean, I love and care about both of them but I already know that my parents are totally against me dating someone with a child and I must admit things are moving a little too fast for me. I want to graduate, get my dream job, travel, make new friends around the world and just live life but this instant family is too much right now. Tina wants to get married and I’m no where near thinking about that. My question to you is, how do I tell Tina that I’m not ready to settle down and I want to just live my life first. I realize that a woman like her comes around once in a lifetime and I truly don’t want to lose her. HELP ME PLEASE!


Not Ready Just Yet


Dear Not Ready Just Yet,
     I totally see where you are coming from. I understand that you’re not ready to get married and I also understand that you’re not ready to fulfill that position as a father. In my opinion, you shouldn’t have to. I understand that you love the child dearly but where is her biological father? You shouldn’t have to completely take over unless you just really want to. As far as your girlfriend is concerned, I think you should just tell her how you really feel. Both of you are too young to be even thinking about marriage. For heaven’s sake you’re both still children and haven’t even graduated yet. This is only your second year of college and you’ve only known each other for 6 months. How could you fall completely in love in 6 months? You don’t even really know everything you need to know about each other. Tell her how you feel. Most of the time if you rush things, they’re probably not going to work out. If she really loves you and wants to be with you, she will respect your wishes and wait until the time is right.



Keaundria Milloy is a Graduating Senior Broadcast/Mass Communications major from Mount Olive, Mississippi. She will be a contributor for The Campus Chronicle for the 2019-2020 academic year.