When is it Time to Leave the Relationship?

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Have you ever felt as if you were the only person in your relationship? Or did you start to have mixed emotions about your significant other? If that’s the case then it is time for you to pack up your feelings and move on. Breaking off a relationship is hard to do but holding on to a broken one is even harder on you.

Many people who are involved in long-term relationships tend to find that they have given up a lot in order to fit into someone else’s plans. This brings on difficulty in breaking up. This also comes from people forgetting how to be independent. The result of this creates a fear of insecurity, which will create unhealthy relationships.

We need to understand that we’re alone throughout our entire lives — even when we’re with someone else. It’s not a bad thing. In fact, it is quite freeing for most people. Everyone experiences low points in their relationships. That’s normal and most couples work through these times.

There aren’t any formulas deciding when to break up, but there are signs to watch for. Basically saying if you have experienced more than a few issues in your relationship over a long period, it’s probably time to move on. Here are some ways to know if you should break it off:

  • You’re no longer getting what you want or need from the relationship. Let’s face it. If you’re not happy, chances are your partner isn’t either.
  • You can no longer communicate with your partner. Everyone has different communication styles, however, you don’t want to spend all of your time in the relationship trying to communicate with each other. It’s just too much work.
  • You no longer look forward to spending time alone with your partner. You may still have a good sex life, but you don’t talk to your partner. You prefer to spend time with other people to avoid being alone together.
  • You criticize or micro-manage your partner. If you’re always concerned with some aspect of your partner’s personality or appearance, don’t look at them— look at yourself. People who are in love overlook minor annoyances and see the bigger picture.
  • You compare your partner to others. When you love someone, you don’t compare him or her to others. If you find yourself doing this, you should re-evaluate your relationship.
  • You try to change your partner. Often we fall in love with people who don’t suit us. If you find that you’re constantly trying to change your partner, it may be time to move on.
  • You don’t laugh anymore. Humor is something that all relationships need. If you no longer find his jokes funny, or you can’t have lighthearted conversations, it may be a sign that the relationship has lost its zing.
  • You’re doing all the giving (or all the getting). Relationships are about mutual benefit. If one partner is benefiting over the other, the relationship is unhealthy.
  • Your friends no longer like being around you when you’re with your partner. Your friends may like your partner, but they no longer like the affect your partner has on you. When a relationships not right, our friends tell us the truth and often are the first to see when a relationship turns sour.
  • You no longer feel good about yourself. Think about how it felt when you first fell in love with your partner. If this feeling is lacking, you may want to look at your relationship.

No matter how appropriate it is to leave a relationship, the loss of any relationship can feel like the end of the world. You have to feel the sadness and grieve to the full extent for what might have been stopping you from being happy. The main thing you cannot do is run away from your feelings, or otherwise you will hide from your true feelings. You will be full of questions and regrets if you stay in an unhappy relationship.

Renita Lacy is a Graduating Senior Broadcast/Mass Communications major. She will be a staff writer for The Campus Chronicle for the 2016-2017 school year.

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